Narova Kunjarova (The Man or the Elephant)

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Speaking the truth is not always easy, and may not always be the right course of action either. The ambiguous nature of the moral order of the universe first became apparent to me when I first heard the famous story of Krishna’s role in the death of Drona.

If you want to refresh your memory, the wiki article is here , but the broad details are as follows:

Drona is plundering through the Pandava troops, wreaking havoc, and he needs to be stopped. But he is a formidable warrior and his only weakness seems to be his affection for his son, Ashwatthama.

And so, Krishna tells Yudhisthira to lie, to tell Drona that his son, Ashwatthama, is dead.

Yudhisthira, who is widely renowned to never tell a lie, of course refuses but Krishna tells him that this is a war that must be won and therefore lying about Ashwatthama is the right thing to do in the larger context.

As Yudhisthira ponders this, Bhima kills an elephant, that happens to be named Ashwatthama and roars loudly, “Ashwatthama is dead!”

Drona comes to Yudhisthira and asks him if this is true, Is Ashwatthama dead? he asks.

Yudhisthira replies, “Yes Aswhattama is dead,” he pauses and adds, “I don’t know if it is man or elephant. (“Ashwatthama hathaha iti, narova kunjarova)”

The last part, he says under his breath and so Drona who knows that Yudhisthira can never tell a lie, believes that his son is dead. He bows his head,full of grief, and then, his head gets chopped off.

As a child, when I first heard the story, I felt strangely betrayed by the good guys, Yudhisthira and Krishna. Like every child I wanted my heroes to be heroes, and the villains to be the villains.

And this was the first time that I sensed that life is not always like that, that what is right and what is wrong is not always obvious, and perhaps not even definable, and that the good and the bad sometimes blur.

But now when I think of the story as an adult, one detail of the story that strikes me as strange, and therefore possibly symbolic, is the elaborate nature of the lie.

Yudhisthira could not lie in a direct manner, and comes across – in this story at least – as an effete, self-righteous, and somewhat sly man; in order to protect his own self-image of being Mr Truthful, an elephant was killed, and an elaborate ruse contrived, all so that he can justify the action to himself.

In making the lie so contrived, this story is making another observation: that people will often use all kinds of ruses to preserve their own self-image.

A psychoanalyst might say that Yudhistra’s superego, his conscience, prevented him from acknowledging his own voluntary participation in a lie, and his mind accomplished this through various psychological defense mechanisms.

The same psychoanalyst would have to say that Krishna at least, is emotionally more evolved.

Krishna at least is direct. From his perspective, the war has to be won. Too many people are dying, and he feels like the moral justification is on his side, and so he sees nothing wrong with lying. The ends, from Krishna’s perspective, justify the means.

So maybe the moral of the story is that untruths and misdeeds are occasionally necessary, if the ends are justified; and Yudhisthira’s role is the addendum to the moral – Lie if you have to, but don’t lie to yourself.

But then you consider this and the story turns around once again – The man who was beheaded, Drona, was a man of principle, a man to be admired. He should have died a noble death if at all.

But wait a minute. Drona is on the side of the bad guys, and so his manner of death is justified. Or is it?


Your Someday is Today


Dream all you want. But put it to action.

Many people die with their dreams still in their heads and hearts. My “someday” never happened, they would tell us.

Why do so many people wait?

What prevents people from acting on their dreams?

Most people cite practical obstacles such as the lack of money or time.

“I am too old now.”
“I am too young, I need experience.”
“I need to save more money.”
“When I retire…”
“When I take a sabbatical.”
“The idea is not good enough.”

But no matter what your reason for inaction, it has its basis in one emotion only – fear.

The fear of the unknown, the fear of failure, the fear of uncertainty. But most of all, the fear that in order for dreams to become a reality, we have to first be willing to kill the dream.

As long as we want the comfort of the dream, its fantasy alive, we will hold on to it and nurture it, play with it in our minds, but never willing to release it into the world, to act on this dream.

Dreams are fragile. It is the nature of your dream to resist the light of day, because it is fragile. It lives a tenuous existence as it is, between the world of fantasy and reality.

But in order to act, you have to first be willing to let your dream go. To see the dream die and be reborn as something tangible, imperfect perhaps, but real.

So harness the fact of your death. The best antidote to inertia is to harness the knowledge of your mortality. Fight the fear that makes you continue living in the safety of shadows, by reminding yourself that you will not live forever.

You do not want to carry your dreams to your grave. Act now. Your someday is today.


What Motivates Us


I recently read Daniel Pink’s thought provoking book, “Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us.”
If you can’t get your hands on the book, check out Dan Pink’s TED talk on the same topic. Here’s the link.

In his book, Pink reminds us that we are not motivated by the old school carrot and stick approach. Instead we are motivated in an environment that allows us the opportunity to express and achieve our potential.The elements of true motivation are : Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose.

When you have the autonomy to explore and find creative solutions to problems, you feel motivated.

When you strive towards self-improvement and mastery of a subject, you feel motivated.

When you can translate this into a purpose that is larger than yourself, you feel motivated.

We are all born with curiosity, with a drive to understanding and exploring the world. Ultimately, we want to know that we are positively contributing to the world, and living our purpose.

Unfortunately, for many people, life derails these natural drives. Adulthood results in the death of dreams and the relinquishment of the idealism of youth is mistakenly seen as a hallmark of maturity.

But in my work with organizations and individuals, I often see what happens when a person relinquishes personal fulfillment and instead embraces stagnation – anxiety, depression, fatigue, unhappiness, and a sense of emptiness.

If you feel any of these symptoms, it might be an indication that you have to re-evaluate the course of your work life.

Ask yourself and answer these questions

a) Am I doing what I can in order to realize my potential?

b) If not, what are my strengths and talents?

c) How can I achieve mastery in one area of my life, and build on my talents?

d) How can I translate this into a purpose that will benefit others?

By pursuing your passion, by engaging your talents, by striving harder to constantly improve and learn, you will be happier, more motivated and purposeful. The money and the success will happen as a natural consequence of these endeavors.


The Driver


“I was driving my car when it hit a deep pothole,” the lady said. “Somehow I managed to drive it out of the pit, but then I had to get the car repaired.

The next day I was driving on another road, and I hit a pothole again, and once again, I had to get the car repaired.

And just when I was coming to see you, my car hit another pothole. I think the car is cursed. It’s a horrible car, and deserves to go to the junkyard.”

“It’s possible that you have had these mishaps because your car is faulty,” he replied. “But have you considered that you may not know how to drive?”